Survival tips for relationships with others and yourself

Tips:If something doesn’t feel good, don’t do it. Our emotions and feelings are powerful indicators.
Listen to your gut as well as your heart.
Know that you can have pleasure without pain!
If you have to really think about whether something is ok or not, the chances are it isn’t.
Trust yourself. The first answer that comes to you is usually the right one.
Ask for spiritual help from your guides, ancestors and the goddess gaia for help when you need it.
Remember that no amount of talking will make the relationship work if your core values are in opposition. If you want monogamy and your partner doesn’t, set them free. Don’t keep convincing yourself you should feel a different way. Your feelings are there for a reason. Listen to what is true for you.
Watch this video!
Notice what wounds are being triggered for you in your relationship and enlist help in healing those wounds outside of your relationship. This could be through friends, healing treatments and my biggest recommendation – work with horses. For more about this, visit my horseback yoga page.
There are many sources of free counselling available, a wealth of information on the internet and tons of videos on youtube. Here I feel I have to mention the value of Tony Robbins and the soundbite of his which stuck with me from his documentary which is to make the vow, “No more. I am not going to do this anymore. Enough. This ends now.” or words to that effect with reference to the pain you are experiencing in life whether it is emotional or financial poverty. I recommend watching it on netflix or any one of his free videos on youtube:
Recognise and embrace your shadow side – the aspects of yourself that you don’t like and realise that you can befriend them. Try imagining what it’s like to be an outsider watching yourself exhibiting a behaviour that you don’t really like but an outsider who isn’t directly affected by it. Can you see the funny side of it? Can you love yourself in spite of it?
Learn from your lessons the first time around and you won’t have to repeat them.